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Hello and Peace!
I am a healer. I am an empath who feels your pain before you've said a word. I understand your loneliness as you navigate life split into categories of before and after. I am on this earth at this time to help you. You are not broken and I do not fix. You are seeking to make sense of your past, present and future. I see you, I feel you, I know you and I can help you reconnect to the truth of you. We are together in life and in living. You cannot forget your past, but you can forgive yourself. Use that energy to propel you into becoming who you want to be; the highest form of yourself. Allow me to pour love and light into your situation. You are not alone and you do not have to go through this alone. Your guides, spirit, angels and I will be with you on this journey. You have pushed down, shoved away, and suffocated your pain long enough. The time is now, take see it, honor it, thank it and let it go. Welcome to the first step. I am waiting for you.
What I Do
This is for you if you are...
Tired of your past popping up in your present thoughts, routine and relationships.
If you are ready to dive into yourself and discover who you are and how you want to show up in the world.
If you are ready to heal using techniques rooted in psychology, communication, spirituality and coaching.
5 STEPS TO RESOLVING A CONFLICT
PUT THE DEVICE DOWN.
We are busy people in a busy time doing busy work and explaining how busy we are. We keep a device at an arm’s length away in case we need to tend to some busy-ness. When you are in a conversation, discussion or argument with someone, that is not the time to have your head buried in you technological device. PUT IT DOWN. This simple act of putting your device away, turning off alerts, or leaving it in another room signals to the other party that you are present; mentally and physically.
fully listen to the other person. Hearing and listening are two different things. As long as audio sound impulses enter one’s ear, they are hearing. Listening takes heart, intention and seeking understanding. When you are in the midst of a conflict, listen to gain understanding of the other person’s point of view, not to time things just right for your witty come back.
Do you know that your breathing gets more and more shallow the more stressed, anxious or angry you become? When you stop breathing regularly, less oxygen enters your brain (which is why people often say stupid shit when they are fighting). Remind yourself to breathe.
Think about who it is you are in conflict with. Many individuals and couples that I work with see conflict as a war; it’s me against them and only one of us is going to win. Conflict is not a battle, it is a mode of education. I know it doesn’t often feel like that, but what if it did. When you enter a conflict, think about who you are talking to, not who they look like or who they remind you of, or what this conflict triggers inside you. Consider the source and then consider their motives and then consider your relationship.
SCAN YOUR BODY
We have intuition that we are taught, from a very young age, to ignore. Your body has the equivalent of “spidey senses” all over. Pay attention to where you feel it way early in the conflict cycle. Was there a snarky remark that made your tummy bubble? Was there a flash of a comment about the past that made your heart sink? Was there a quietly shouted “whatever” in the midst of a conversation? When you are able to feel the feels and identify the emotion attached to them, you are able to better articulate your needs and concerns with the other party in the conflict. Pay attention to YOU.